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92: State Awareness NOT State Change

You don’t need to fix yourself, just observe.

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The new thing for coaches and mentors to say is that you need to shift your mindset. We’ve discovered recently that that’s just not true.

When you shift your mindset you’re avoiding the problem. It’s just going to come back to you, and probably even worse than before.

Instead of thinking of it as shifting your mind, think of it as being aware of your mindset. There’s programming in you that you can’t get rid of. If it comes back, you’re just going to get angry.

Instead notice when these thoughts and emotions come up. Let them, observe them. Embrace them, but don’t react to them. Then analyze where they are coming from. You may be surprised what you find out about yourself.

On this episode of Have It All we dig deep and discuss the things we’ve been learning, and how you can apply them to your life as well.

Download this episode today and learn how you can be more aware of yourself.

Every time you feel resistance, get excited.

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Dealing with what’s going on is fully, emotionally, experiencing what’s going on.
  • There’s no reason to vilify a part of yourself.
  • When you go through something, your clients tend to go through the same thing.
  • The things we are shameful of within ourselves we externalize onto other people, then shame them.
  • There’s nothing to fix, just observe.
  • Everyone is giving love the only way they know how.
  • You don’t want state change, you want state awareness.
  • Every time you feel resistance, get excited.
  • Feel through the anxiety, don’t bypass it.
  • What do you get to accept about yourself?

What do you get to accept about yourself?

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Links:

The Dark Side of Light Chasers by Debbie Ford

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