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114: How to Let Go of Making Others Wrong

There are no stupid people. Just your perception of them doing what they’re doing, because in your world you would never operate that way. But they’re not you. - Ilan FerdmanClick to Tweet

There are moments in life when you may feel frustrated, annoyed or challenged by another person's behavior.  We may find ourselves labeling others in our heads as ‘stupid', ‘idiot', ‘incompetent' or something similar.  And if we allow ourselves to look more closely, we may realize that not everyone operates the same as ourselves.

In this episode of the Have it All podcast, Ilan and Guy Ferdman explore the importance of feeling more and thinking less. During this discussion, you will discover how our perceptions of the way people operate may lead to emotions of anger and frustration, increased stress levels and keep us from feeling centered and emotionally free.

Learn new ways to overcome judgmental obstacles and realize that there are no stupid people, simply our perception of how others operate.




The Cliff Notes:

  • Ilan and Guy share their personal experiences on how to cope with stress and the perception of stupidity.
  • Get excited about moments that trigger your anger, become self-aware and use them as an opportunity in letting go of the emotional effect.
  • Meditation can center you to prevent the feeling of anger from running away with you.
  • People aren’t “stupid” just because they don’t do things the way you do.
  • Alignment comes from the body, not the mind.
  • Ilan and Guy share their personal stories on family members moving and separating, and why feeling into these experiences is important to your emotional well-being.
  • Creating real memories in short bursts of time can be more meaningful than seeing someone every day.
  • When you feel hurt, just know that your heart is going through its process. Applying logic with your mind to the situation when the heart hurts is not a cure for healing.
  • Not being able to remember things can reduce emotional connections to forgotten memories.
  • Deep sadness can help you feel a new experience and connection to people and moments.
  • Attachment can leave you feeling trapped and longing for freedom. For example, babies aren’t trying to annoying us on purpose when they cry. They are simply beings of love expressing their emotions.
  • It is OK to NOT complete everything in the moment.


3-Key Points:

1.) Use meditation to center yourself to prevent triggers of anger from bothering you.

2.) People are not necessarily “stupid” just because they do not do things the way you do.

3.) There is no ownership of any people, places, or things in this world.


Feel more, think less.Click to Tweet