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21: What Do You Choose: Familiar Misery or Foreign Happiness?

If you wanna know what you’re committed to, look at your results.

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Let’s tackle a big issue that anyone on the entrepreneurial journey has faced in one way, shape, or form. Self sabotage. Sometimes we are so caught up in our cycles or loops, we don’t even realize we are addicted to the familiarity of poor circumstances. We become addicted to the safety, even if it is no good for us. Why do we do this?  How do we break out of it? How do we start getting the results we really want?

Mike Bundrant joins us today to discuss these loops we find ourselves in, and how we can begin to break free of them. Mike has been doing iNLP training since 1995. You can find more information on him in the shownotes below!

When you learn how to be happy consistently, you learn to tolerate the happiness, and trust it.

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Self sabotage is avoidable, unnecessary, self inflicted failure.
  • People tend to go into loops and patterns in their intimate relationship scenarios, where in the end it backfires on them.
  • To the unconscious mind, there is one thing that’s more important than anything else: familiarity.
  • What’s familiar to us, is what’s safe to us. We’re gonna prefer what’s familiar to us all the time.
  • Even emotions that are frustrating, but familiar, we’re going to set ourselves up to re-experience those emotions.
  • If you find yourself in a negative loop, ask yourself, “why do I tolerate this?”
  • Merely being exposed to something can cause you to gravitate towards it, due to the bit of familiarity associated with it.
  • If you set a goal, but there is a deeper attachment happening, the goal you set might be able to override the attachment.
  • Setting goals can help us break free of negative commitments we have.
  • When you stop working against yourself, you begin to gain traction.
  • When happiness makes you anxious, it’s because you’re not used to being happy.
  • You’ll always bump into negativity. It’s a part of life.
  • Build up a tolerance to the negativity.

We will choose a familiar misery over a foreign happiness.

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Links:

http://inlpcenter.org/

About Mike Bundrant: http://inlpcenter.org/about/

Mike Bundrant Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/inlpcenter/

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