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80: It’s Okay to be a Complete Mess and Here’s Why

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Don’t reprimand the inner child: receive the feedback.

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As adults we get upset with ourselves when negative emotions overcome us. We are trained to find these off, and put on a show that everything is right in the world. We cover up the mess within, and in the end it does more harm than good.

Honestly, it’s ok to be a mess. Appreciate the mess. Love the mess.

When we have the dark emotions overcome us, it’s just our programming that’s been in us since children coming out. There’s no need to reprimand it. Instead, analyze it and embrace it.

I’ll even take this a step further and offer you a challenge. Learn to accept other people’s mess. Have empathy for them, because we are all children who have yet to complete certain development.

Do you think you can do that? Can you have empathy for other people’s mess? Even murderers?

On this episode of Have It All, Guy discusses his lessons from recent Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP). During this NLP he has learned to accept the emotions that flow through his body, and let them pass without holding onto them – a skill we could all use.

Download this episode today to learn more about NLP and Guy’s recent inner work.

Usually feelings that are happening in the chest point to some kind of sadness.

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The Cliff Notes:

  • Guy has been doing Neuro Linguistic Programming  (NLP) training.
  • We all have old programming come back to us.
  • Even as an adult, parents can be a trigger to old programming.
  • We all have a need for safety and a deep personal connection.
  • Problems always occur when something doesn’t feel good within.
  • Don’t practice NLP unless you’ve been trained to do it.
  • Doing more doesn’t equal the results you want. You have to do inner work.
  • There’s no reason to reprimand our inner child instead of receiving the feedback.
  • Most men are trained to show two emotions: joy and anger.
  • Women are more connected to the range of emotions.
  • We came into the world as whole humans, and we can get back to that state.
  • The body is designed to let energy flow through it, not hold it in.
  • Give yourself the gift of appreciating even the darkest of moments.
  • Have empathy for all people, even murderers.
  • In the end we are all children who have yet to complete certain developmental things.
  • Learn to love the mess.

We all have a need for safety and a deep personal connection.

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