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202: The Key to Being an Effective Parent with Kim Ades

“Life provides a million natural consequences. Let's tune into those without having to create new ones that aren't always relevant.”
- Kim Ades
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How many times do you find yourself telling your kid to stop this or stop that? How many times do you have to tell them to go to their room or threaten to take their phone away? 

It gets frustrating doesn’t it? 

How about we try to do things a little differently this time around. Hit the play button to find out what we mean1  

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are joined by Kim Ades, who is the Founder and President of JournalEngine(TM) Software and Frame of Mind Coaching. Kim discusses more effective parenting methods with us that may seem counterintuitive but are actually more logical than traditional methods.

Tune in to this conversation to put a new parenting tool in your toolbox that might make your job feel much less strenuous!

You can learn more about Kim at https://www.frameofmindcoaching.com/

“As parents, we tend to make things a lot worse than they need to be.” - Kim AdesClick to Tweet


The Cliff Notes:

  • We have a tendency to micromanage children but that's not really a parent’s job. 
  • When we, as parents, focus on managing our own behavior rather than our children's behavior, everything changes. 
  • Leaders who micromanage tend to hit a ceiling that halts further progress. 
  • We tend to assign too much meaning to every little behavior of our kids. 
  • Micromanaging our children interferes with their ability to grow.
  • Although it's not our job to micromanage our children, it is our job to help them manage themselves.
  • You don't have control over others. You only have control of your own response to others. 
  • It's important to teach our children that they don't have to follow the beaten path to be successful.


“Anytime a kid acts out and does something in violence, it's because they don't have the tools to express what they need and want. They're stuck.” - Kim AdesClick to Tweet