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196: How to Handle Your Social Anxiety

“When you're afraid to look someone in the eye, there's something you're afraid that person is going to see.” - Guy & Ilan FerdmanClick to Tweet

 

The title says it all. You know that awkwardness you feel when you go to a party? That mind blank you have when you meet someone new? Yeah… that stuff. Social anxiety is difficult.

Fortunately, there are tools to help. Through our personal development experience and coaching of several people, we’ve learned some ways to manage social anxiety that might be different from what you’ve heard before.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we’re here to share some ways you can work with your social anxiety rather than fight against it.

Tune in to this conversation to learn how to stop feeling so distant from the people right next to you.

Get ready to take some notes!

 

“When I started doing this personal development work, it occurred to me that the same fears I have inside that are constantly yapping, everyone has.” - Guy & Ilan FerdmanClick to Tweet

 

The Cliff Notes:

  • We usually assume that we’ll be judged if we open up. Rightfully so.
  • Bringing awareness to, rather than avoiding discomfort, can help you recenter yourself.  
  • Relearn how to connect with people by practicing the “Be With” exercise.
  • We get so caught up in our own insecurities that we forget everyone else has them too.
  • Be curious about the people you talk to. Ask questions. Learn their story.
  • Everyone has learned to fake facial cues, but body language communicates how we really feel.
  • You don't need to necessarily change your anxious reactions, but learn to be aware of them.
  • When meditating, intentionally visualize the social environments that intimidate you.

 

“I don't need to worry about how I show up. I just need to be interested in this person. And if I'm interested in this person, I can be a space for them to say whatever they need to say.” - Guy & Ilan Ferdman (click to tweet)Click to Tweet