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162: How To Embrace Discomfort

“Your system has to be met with an open heart or else it just collapses.” - Guy and Ilan FerdmanClick to Tweet

Parenting is uncomfortable.

Those with children say it’s like constantly holding a mirror up to yourself. While that might be flattering when your child shows kindness or listens carefully—often times, they reveal the parts of us that we don’t want the rest of the world seeing.

When this happens, it’s easy to lose sight of our parental responsibilities. We get triggered, and the heat of the moment takes over.

On today’s episode of Personal Development Without The Fluff, we are sharing the parenting strategies on how to deal with our emotions in these high-pressure situations. By sitting back asking our children how they feel, and sharing our own vulnerabilities, we can alleviate the pressure and resume to a state of peace.

Tune in to this conversation to hear Guy and Ilan unpack these mechanics in a live-coaching call!

The Cliff Notes:

  • Try to be with the fact of feelings instead of adding to or rationalizing them.
  • Differentiate between aggression and sadness covered up by anger.
  • Solve others problems by sharing your own vulnerabilities.
  • Provide language for your children by asking them how they feel.
  • Reframe OCD-like behaviors by asking: are you choosing to be rigid or flexible?
  • Recognize whether you’re truly out of control, or if there’s actually safety in your state.
  • As a parent, relieve yourself of the responsibility to be infallible.
  • Your children want you to be happy, so try to understand their behaviors through that filter.
“Be with what’s so—instead of trying to change what’s happening because it’s uncomfortable.” - Guy and Ilan FerdmanClick to Tweet